It’s not about an issue, but it’s all
about persons. I was firmly convinced about my understanding of homosexuality
and LGBT people before I met any of them. God used them to open my eyes to His
love for all people.
Let me tell
you about three gay people God sent me so that I could one day be proud to
perform the same sex wedding for my daughter.
I started out on the ‘other side’.
During my older youth years I joined the Church of the Nazarene denomination. I
appreciated their passion for Jesus Christ and their reliance on the Bible.
They taught me from the Scripture that homosexuality was a sin. I never
questioned it.
During my seminary days, I switched
denominations and returned to the church of my childhood - the United Methodist
Church. My understanding of homosexuality didn’t change because the United
Methodist Church was clear that “homosexuality is incompatible with Christian
teaching”.
I was in my first appointment after
seminary when I met Drew Hottell. He was a regular visitor to the church. I had
just invited Drew to join our next Membership Class, when he asked if we could
meet together. Drew questioned me, “Can I be United Methodist if I’m gay?” It
was the first time anyone told me they were homosexual. I wasn’t sure how to
answer him. Drew talked about his faith and his love for sharing that faith
through music. I began to see it was possible to be a Christian and a
homosexual. I hesitantly told him, “Yes, we’d be glad to have you join our
church.”
A
few years later I served a church near South Haven, Michigan where I met Bob
and Boots McKinney. Their forty-year old son Roger moved in with them and
started attending the church. When I visited Roger he told me, ‘I have AIDS.
I’ve come home to die.” He told me his story about another church he once
attended in Grand Rapids. “The pastor told me I was living in sin. He said I
would probably end up in hell because of my homosexual lifestyle.” Roger opened
my eyes to see the painful judgmentalism and rejection that church people heap
on the heads of LGBT people. I apologized for the words of that fellow pastor.
I told Roger about a God of grace and love.
I had the opportunity to spend time with Roger
during that last year of his life. He talked with me often about his faith in
God. A month before his death, Roger asked, “Mike I know I don’t have much time
left, but I wonder if I could join the church?”
Roger was
very weak at the time, but he made it to church that Sunday in November. I
received him as a member of God’s church. I welcomed him in as one of God’s
people. Fortunately, the congregation was gracious in their hospitality and
love as well. A few weeks later, Roger passed away, shortly before
Christmas.
The person who compelled me to reflect most intensely
on my view of homosexuality and LGBT people was my daughter Sarah.
While
Sarah was a youth, we had many conversations about the issue of homosexuality.
I didn’t realize at the time that we were talking about her. I told her about
the journey I had been on. I told her about Drew Hottell and Roger McKinney.
Sarah and I then explored together what the Bible had to say about this
subject. We both believe God can speak to us through His Word, the Bible. So we
struggled with the Scriptures that specifically mention homosexuality. We
looked at those passages in light of the many other scriptures that talk about
God’s love and grace.
All
of these discussions with Sarah led me to preach a sermon on the subject in
2005. I presented both the conservative and progressive understanding of this
issue. But I concluded the message with these words:
“Notice how Jesus loved the unacceptable
outsiders of his day. Jesus moved closer to them. Jesus spent time with them.
Jesus talked with them. Jesus brought them healing and grace. Jesus touched
them.
What might
it look like for us to love homosexuals as Jesus does?
What might
it look like for you to love a homosexual person during this coming year? Could
God be speaking to you now? Could God be speaking to me?"
I finished with a call and response that Sunday:
"As one united people of God in
Jesus Christ, we face our frustration and vocation:
We can’t do everything………………but we
can love.
We can’t speak the final
word………..but we can love.
We’re afraid about being
hurt…………but we can love.
We have a low tolerance for
stress…….but we can love.
We live with people who are
different…but we can love.
We can’t always agree………………….but we
can love.”
God
had prepared my wife and I to fully love our daughter Sarah when she told us at
Christmastime five years ago that she was a lesbian. We cried tears of joy
knowing that she trusted us with this ‘secret’. We embraced her with same love
we knew God has always held for her.
It’s
not about an issue, but it’s all about persons. God sent three people into my
life to reveal His matchless love for all. God sent them to me so that I could
one day proudly perform my daughter’s wedding.
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